Guilt.
Reduce the impact guilt has on your life, so it stops controlling your decisions.
15 years 1:1 work100+ clientsADHD myself (diagnosed at 16)
Stop feeling like you're always disappointing the people you care about.
The Overthinkers Freedom Framework. 1:1 coaching for ADHD people pleasers and overthinkers.
Book a free 30-min callSound familiar?
- You put everyone else's needs ahead of your own.
- You say yes when you mean no, then resent it.
- You check a message ten times before you send it.
- You blame yourself every time someone is unhappy.
- You're at the dinner, with your kids, with your friends. But you're not really there.
No matter what anyone says, there's always a feeling that someone's disappointed.
The Overthinkers Freedom Framework
12 weeks, one on one, built around your life. We work on three things.
Boundaries.
Recognize your limits and say them out loud. Choices made on your terms, not out of guilt or pressure.
Trust.
Trust your own thoughts and feelings, regardless of how other people react.
“Jesse, you taught me to be myself free from the bonds of other people.”
What changes
- Stronger relationships
- More self-confidence
- A life on your own terms instead of everyone else's
“I learned how to stand up for myself and set boundaries with people. I've learned the right words to express how I'm feeling and what I deserve.”
What you get
- 1:1 sessions, 60 to 75 minutes
- WhatsApp access between sessions. I reply within a day.
- Your personal roadmap, built together in the first two weeks
- Your "Future Vision" video, professionally edited
- Tools and worksheets, yours to keep
Not for you if you want a quick fix, or you're in crisis and need clinical treatment.
About me
I'm Jesse Elan, an ADHD specialist based in Berlin, working with people internationally. Trained in Narrative Therapy.
For years I only showed up when I was in a good mood. People thought I didn't care. I cared so much it was eating me alive.
I'm not a guru. You're the expert of your own life. I just help you figure it out.
“His approach is judgment-free and with the right touch of humor to put people at ease.”
The call
Free, 30 minutes, one on one.
You tell me what's actually going on. I ask the questions that get underneath it. By the end, we'll both know if this is a fit.
If it isn't, you'll still leave with a clear read on what to change first.
Questions
Do I need an official diagnosis?
No. My whole approach is built on the idea that you know yourself better than anyone else does. I work with diagnosed and self-identified clients both.
Is this coaching or counseling?
It depends, and in most cases it's a mixture of both. I'm certified in Narrative Therapy and Video Therapy, and I've developed my own techniques on top of that. We work out what fits you on the call.
I've done therapy and read everything already. Why would this be different?
Most people I work with have. The gap usually isn't information. This gives you a way to audit it: keep the parts that work for you, throw out the rest.